Well, mine are far from perfect…and they are French! OK, they were born in the UK but have French genes. I thought it would be really interesting as a French mum surrounded by English mums (or other nationalities) to see what I took from my French culture and what I took from my English surroundings.
It seems to be a mix and I have identified with some of the advice from Pamela Druckerman which I intend to follow:
- As parents, you are in this world to teach your children. So if you are losing patience, remind yourself that they are children (and not adults) for a good reason: they are still learning. And it is your job to teach them.
- Stop thinking of your children first. Think about yourself (you as a mum and as a wife) and your children will probably learn very quickly that they are not the centre of the universe; and therefore they will behave a little bit better.
- Pamela Druckerman talks a lot about ‘the pause’: make your children wait a few minutes, either when they are babies and wake up at night, or when they are older and want something from you (for example, when they want to talk to you, when they want their snack, when they need help with something, etc.) so that they learn to wait and be patient.
- With regard to food, stick to a routine: 4 meals a day (breakfast, lunch, snack and dinner) and try to give your children a starter made of vegetables – for example, grated carrots, tomatoes or cucumber salad, avocado or soup. They will be hungry and will eat it. And it can also help them to learn to be patient while the main dish is still cooking.
And while you may or may not have read ‘French Children Don’t Through Food, I can tell you this: I know lots of French children and they are not all so well-behaved as the author might make you think. French kids have tantrums, they do not like everything you might put on the table and they do want you NOW!
Me & The Boys